5 SIMPLE RULES OF HAPPINESS
Let go of having unrealistic expectations of yourself and others. You can't change the past but you can do things differently NOW!
Allow people to help and support you in your recovery.
Remove toxic people from your life and only keep the ones that are positive.
The people who truly want to be in your life will respect your boundaries. Realize that some people are not good for you, no matter how much you love them.
Figure out what is at the core of your need to escape. What factors make you feel sad/anxious/uneasy.
Think of potential solutions and alternatives. Select the best solution. Action - Implement and apply solution.
Access what you need (treatment, support, hobbies, community help) for the outcome you desire.
Catastrophizing is thinking of the WORST CASE SCENARIO in your head.
Catastrophizing is an irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is. Catastrophizing can generally can take two different forms: making a catastrophe out of a current situation, and imagining making a catastrophe out of a future situation.
Falling prey to catastrophizing is like striking out in your mind before you even get to the plate. Both of these types of catastrophizing limit your opportunities in life, work, relationships and more. It can affect our entire outlook in life, and creates a self-fulfilling prophecy of failure, disappointment, and underachievement.
The first step to dealing with catastrophizing is to recognize when you’re doing it. The sooner you start tracking this, the quicker you’ll be able to start focusing on stopping it.
Stopping yourself from catastrophizing takes a lot of conscious effort on your part, patience, and time. But if you try these few steps and really start answering yourself back, these irrational thoughts that serve no positive purpose will soon lessen in frequency and strength.
All addiction stems from PAIN.
Our substance or behavior of choice is merely a distraction for pain avoidance. The using, acting out or self destructive behavior is merely a symptom.
We must put our pride ASIDE or it will kill us!
Our lives are on TRIAL and we must protect it.
Get the MESSAGE / NOT the MESS!
Talk about how it was, when it was good, when it got bad and how it no longer serves you. Be sure to include all the pain and suffering it has brought you. Write out a breakup letter of you love affair with the thing that once brought you relief but now only causes pain and suffering.
Let thoughts pass like clouds floating by in the big sky. Notice how working with this analogy makes you feel.
When you experience a negative thought. STOP! and redirect your thinking.
Pay attention, being Mindful, right now.
Don't live in the past or worry about the future. BE HERE NOW!
There isn't enough room in your mind for both WORRY and FAITH.
You must decide which one will live there.
Two things to remember in life: "Take care of your thoughts when you are alone, and take care of your words when you are with people." - Zig Ziglar
NO MATTER WHAT!
Always do your best. Continuous progress is better than unrealistic delayed perfection.
GOD GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE,
COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS THAT I CAN,
AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Have a Relapse Prevention Plan
When in Meetings - Identify - Do not Judge
Remember the pain you feel always stems from your past - don't stay there!